Due to the wonderful invention of everyone having a camera everywhere we go, sometimes our lives look prettier than reality. We judge each other's lives by the glimpses we see of them. Of course I mean social media, but also out in public, at the grocery, at a friend or family member's house, family events, etc., etc. Last week I was a little judged at the store. I'm pushing my twins (2 years) through Target. It's not a long trip, but to them it was getting close to lunch time, which also means nap comes next. One child starts hitting the other child and no matter what I say to her quietly she will not stop. Seriously we were in desperate need of food in our house, and the husband was gone again on a work trip. I was not shopping in the fun parts at Target. That kind of shopping is saved for days the kids are not with me. Finally I snap at her and a woman down the aisle stairs at me. Yes I just yelled at my 2 year old in a public place, but she drove me to it. She also stopped hitting her sister because I got her attention. I have no idea how loud I actually yelled. At that moment I looked like the impatient mother I felt like. There are also other times our life looks so pretty, with all my pretty pictures. The truth is we're just plugging along like everyone else. We have wonderful parenting moments, then we have guilty moments, then bad moments, then it cycles back around to good days and bad days. We are very blessed and I thank God every day for what we have, but we also worked very very hard for everything. Even my children we worked extra hard for, and experienced loss of our first baby along the way just trying to get to today. I regret no moments, because that's what makes us who we are. It's what we do with our today that matters. Happiness does not fall in your lap or grow on a tree. My 85 year old neighbor (widow and lives alone) was talking about a friend being depressed, and she told her friend you have to create your own happiness no matter what.
Be Happy. Spread Love not Hate!
Photo taken by me. Camera on tripod and remote in my hand. Edited with a matte finish.